Why Do Women Call Each Other “Slut”?

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Calling women sluts is all the rage these days! Even between women, slut is now a common insult, sometimes passive-aggressively hidden as a friendly jab, but usually meant to cripple a woman’s self-esteem. Popular language is an interesting revealer of collective cultural unconscious beliefs, so let’s see what this particular insult tells us about women’s views on their own sexuality, and why women are using sex as a verbal weapon against each other. I’ll bet you already guessed it’s not looking good.

The word “slut,” in the vast majority of contexts, is meant to draw attention to a woman’s low inherent worth as a human. A slut is probably below human status, actually. There are many different definitions of slut on the Internet, and “dirty immoral promiscuous prostitute” pretty much summarizes them all. I think it’s safe to say this points to a deeply ingrained collective cultural belief in good women’s sexuality and bad women’s sexuality, and I’m guessing that not-a-slut is a “clean moral chaste wife/girlfriend.”

It cuts a lot deeper to call a woman a slut than it does to simply call her bad because of the sub-human connotations of the word. For this insult to work, both women have to believe that female sexuality can even be expressed as dirty, immoral promiscuity. They have to first believe in the sub-human status of the whore. To call another woman “slut” is to pretend she’s that low down dirty prostitute, and also creates the convenient dichotomy in which the name-caller gets to pretend she’s the pure and respected Madonna.

Those wife and prostitute roles are such a super fun game of make believe, aren’t they ladies? In truth, women’s sexuality can’t actually be compartmentalized into good or bad; it is what it is and it’s just sexuality. Your body is literally just a pleasure machine for your own amusement, but since people were also blessed with big imaginations, they can imagine there are two different kinds of sex. Two women could be doing the exact same thing to the exact same man, but one of them is clean, and the other dirty. One is moral and the other is not. One is chaste while the other is promiscuous. One is worthy of respect and the other is not. We’re so amazingly imaginative, right? Because sex is just sex.

In fact, all of society is so imaginative that a woman can still have her reputation “ruined” if she is publicly branded as a slut, and it not even the 1800s anymore. If only there were specific rules and guidelines to follow to keep oneself safe from such an ugly insult, but no clear line exists between Madonna and whore, so it’s pretty much just a free for all in the grey area in between.

Sex doesn’t make the slut, society does. Ladies, we are all trapped in this little box of make believe together and I suggest we focus on how to break out of it, rather than on slinging mud in each others faces. We are not each other’s enemies. We need to stop asking for society’s permission to be the sexual beings we already are. The next time someone calls me a slut, I think I’ll just smile and say “thank you, I’m having so much fun enjoying my life as I want to, and I hope you can afford yourself the same respect.”

And if you missed it, check out my previous post on why men call each other “pussy,” for more fun with words.

~ “If your joy is derived from what society thinks of you, you’re always going to be disappointed.” – Madonna

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5 Comments on “Why Do Women Call Each Other “Slut”?”

  1. I just wrote a blog post last night about the topic of women being called sluts. My focus was more on men because they are the ones I hold at fault for making “slut” such a degrading word. It’s men who tend to judge us based on our sexual experience and women use the term towards one another because we know it hurts a woman’s chances at a good relationship with a man for her to be percieved as a “slut”.

    • Courtenay says:

      Really enjoyed your post on sluts too! I know what you mean about guys wanting women to play the virginal, innocent role, and just like you said, it’s all about their fear of women’s sexuality.

      I’ve totally had it with expecting men to come around and see how ridiculous all this Madonna-whore role-playing actually is. For me, the way forward is to reclaim the word “slut” and never ever apologize for my sexuality ever again. Sounds like you’re doing the same thing, so hooray!!! If a guy can’t handle knowing how many men I’ve been with, it’s a big turn off for me. It screams insecurity. No wonder so many women have trouble having orgasms.

      • Marc sattler says:

        Sluts! Some of us embrace and some don’t. I feel bad for the ones that don’t. Enjoy your you’re youth & “slut” it up! If such a silly word separates one another then you gotta another thing coming ( no pun intended). Bring on the fun!!!


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